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Today was one of those strangely synchronistic days where many of my clients presented with similar issues around feeling an imbalance between work and life.
For example, I saw a client who wanted some help answering her question – “should I find an easier job so that I have more energy for my family?”
Of course, as a Psychologist and health coach, my role isn’t to provide answers to questions, but to help my clients understand the drivers behind their question, uncover the question they are really seeking an answer for, empower them to think through the options available, and support them in their next steps.
During my session today, this client realised that “wherever you go, there you are” (Jon Kabat-Zinn). She became aware that finding an easier job wouldn’t solve the issue of her behaviour of over-investing in any job she does. She realised that the solution was rooted within her, not something externally driven.
My client established that the driver behind her original question was guilt around juggling full time work with parenting; the question she was really seeking an answer for was “am I doing enough in my role as a mother?”; the options she generated included setting firmer boundaries to ensure she didn’t take work home, being aware of her perfectionistic expectations of herself and working on being more self-compassionate, and setting daily intentions for how to spend quality time with her three children.
Are you feeling stuck with a challenge, and unsure of what options might be available to you? You could benefit from ongoing support and guidance from my Health Coaching program which empowers you to gain clarity on what is important to you, set goals and make sustainable changes that improve your health and happiness. Want to learn more? Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org